It always upsets me so much when I see interpretations/illustrations of the two headed calf poem that show a living calf being torn away from its mother and killed to sell to a museum and framing the poem as being “humanity kills beautiful things for being different”.
Two headed cows almost never survive more than a few hours after their birth. The farmer finds the *body* the next day. The calf was destined to die, and that’s a tragedy, but for the time it was alive, it had a beautiful and unique experience.
It’s not a poem about the cruelty of man. It’s a poem about the beauty of life in an indifferent universe. It’s about purpose and beauty being able to exist even in an existence doomed to come to an end, as all our lives are. It’s not a poem about how a calf dies, but how, even for only a brief moment, it was alive.
And, for that moment, because of that life, however fleeting, the sky had twice as many stars.
like as a feminist and an asexual if you ever imply that not having sex / not having “enough” of it is a conservative or reactionary trait I will be running you over with a bus pronto
you do not need to have sex ever. if you don’t want to then you can just not do it. you don’t need to have sex in order to mature as a person. you don’t need to have sex to prove that you don’t think it’s immoral. you don’t need to have sex to be a good partner. you don’t need to have sex to be physically and/or mentally healthy. all of these goals can be achieved by hundreds of means other than sex. you can chose to do it for any reason you want, but you can also chose not to do it for any reason you want, including just not really feeling like it at any given time in any situation. the only thing not having sex says about your life and character is that you decided not to have sex. you can really really just not do it and that will be 1000x better for you in every conceivable way than making yourself do it when you don’t want to.
if youre thinking oh man i wish i was disabled enough to use this or that i have news for you:
You Are Disabled Enough.
you want a wheelchair or cane or walker cause sometimes walking hurts even if “just a little bit”?
You Are Disabled Enough.
you think a service dog would be very helpful for your disability and youre able to care for a pet but feel like you dont deserve one since your symptoms arent “that bad”?
You Are Disabled Enough.
you want to wear sunglasses indoors or get a shower seat or ear defenders or literally anything that might help you even just a little?
You Are Disabled Enough.
you dont need to prove anything to anyone, and you arent “taking resources” from anybody either. take care of your body, even if it feels like it “isnt that bad”.
life actually gets better when you leave the house consistently btw like im serious
if you don’t know where to go, just wander! go to the store and don’t buy anything, go to the library just to sit and do whatever you were going to do at home, go to a park and just walk around/sit outside for a bit (weather permitting, of course)
just put some headphones in and walk around the block a couple times if you really have nothing else to do, just getting a bit of air and change of scenery is so good for you
me the first few weeks of forcing myself to go on daily walks (it gets better tho)
i really need tumblr to learn the concept of “if you physically cannot do this then this post is not talking about you” because jesus christ.
hope it’s ok for me to pull these tags out bc this is so fucking real. sometimes i am in too much pain to do anything besides go to work and go home. sometimes i feel well enough to take the elevator down to the lobby of my apartment building and sit there or outside a while. sometimes i have the strength to go on a walk in the park with my friends. i know myself and my limits and i’m getting better at respecting them. but seeing posts like this doesn’t mean “U HAVE TO GO WALK AROUND RIGHT NOW OR UR A BAD PERSON AND IF UR DISABLED THEN TOUGH SHIT U SUCK” it’s literally just “this is a thing that can help you feel better because being cooped up in the same space day in and day out can fuck with your mental health.” also if you have a caregiver they should be taking this into consideration!! disabled people who can’t get around by themselves deserve this too.
